The Real Leader

Okay, he comes to office in the company sponsored cab and heads straight to the restroom and brushes up his hair quickly and checks if his tummy is stuffed half in his shirt and half in his pant and takes a walk towards his cabin.

Yes, he is my manager! The man who has a work experience of over 10 years in our field.

Day 1, my perception about him is that he must be a great person with packs of talents with him. He comes and talks so nicely in all that jazzy words.

I can compare him with Diabetes, the disease which slowly and steadily enters your body and make you more vulnerable to many diseases. At first, he talks to you so politely. Later on, he gradually gets a grip on you and use you as a whip lash for his bullock cart.

Day 15, I start to feel that he never listens to anyone. He asks questions and he talks something else. Never bothers to hear the answers. Never.

Day 150, I totally hate him. 

He looks so irritated.

He comes and asks, “Do you know what is a flip?”

I say, “I don’t know about it”

He asks, “Have you worked on it before?”

Now, you could have got a glimpse of my manager’s supreme listening capacity.

When he asked about flip, I wanted to answer something else. I don’t know if I can post this here but anyways I will hint it indirectly (which means directly!) so that you can understand my frustration.

Conversation Repeat:

He looks so irritated.

He comes and asks , “Do you know what is a flip?”

I say, “Christ, I don't f**king know you c**k sucking shit stain”.

He asks, “Have you worked on it before?”

I say, “Goddamn son of a  b**ch. Can’t you f**king understand English? I said I don’t f**king know. How the f**k are you asking more about it you moron?”.

Conversation Repeat - Over:

Ah I wish I could have conversed in this way. Felt much better.

The point is, these kind of people, who are in the managerial roles around the world, never bother to listen to their team members, show their angers to them, irritate and squeeze them to the core for no reasons. It is like suddenly some horns have grown upon in their hands making them look like a race bull. They bring shame to others in the field. This kind of attitude only develops hatred upon them.

With all this hated feeling, I come home. My mom is watching TV. She understands that I am angry for some reason. I am angry because I am angry and she is happy. Bad know! I am waiting for a chance to counter her now for no reason. She diverts me saying that the new Simpsons episode is awesome and that I should watch it. Saying this, she sits to dine with me. She keeps the plates in front of me and goes on speaking about the interesting incidents that happened today. Mostly they were annoying to me except the one about the neighbor Nirmala aunty (who is 38 and looks so sexy by the way). In an extreme state, when  I was not able to control myself, I took out the plates and kept it back with a bang. She fell silent immediately and  started to talk again.

“Why are you angry for no reason?”

‘Do you know that? Did you see? You don’t know anything. You sit all day in home preparing food and watching TV and in the night, you are giving to give the day’s updates. Have you ever bothered to ask about mine?’

Mom sees me for a moment. She smiles sheepishly. Total irritation for me.

She starts, “ Have I never asked you? Have you ever bothered to tell me first?”

Aha now I am in the King’s court. She has a point now. Whenever, I am irritated, I don’t open it to her and even if she asks me, I used to shout at her for no reason and go to my room.

So I say all the things that happened with my manager today.

She says, “It is simple. Why don’t you understand it?”

I get irritated totally and ask her that in what way this looked simple.

“When you are showing your anger to someone in your range, he is showing his anger to someone similarly in his range. Hmmmmm (Sigh).. You people call yourselves managers and future leaders . I think you should go back way behind in time and understand about everything once again from the scratch”.

Saying this, she goes inside the kitchen to wash the utensils. I sit there like a frozen lava. I would attribute her reply to something that slapped right in my face so hard (facepalm).

Now I leave the same to you to understand who is a real leader and what it takes to be one!!!

Doh!

What is your priority???

Many a times in life, we never know our priorities!

Yes it is true!

That is why everything keeps changing in this world! If everyone had a plan and a purpose in their lives, the world would have been more orderly. As the saying goes, Change is the only constant thing in this world.

So I thought of putting myself into answering this question of what would be my priority in life. I wanted to ask the same to you. Regarding priorities, many of us don't know what it is and even misunderstand it.

I asked my friend the same question. He replied that his priority would be to buy a new home for his family. Man, there is a term for it. They call it a short term goal. Please don't confuse it with a priority.

I couldn't answer this question at all. I could correlate this question with the one asked by great sage from southern part of India, Ramana Maharishi, who searched for an answer to the question of self, "Who am I?". Noone is able to answer it till date.

Cutting back to the topic, priorities are something that hold a significant position in your inner heart than other things for a longer time. You may or may not have tried it or you may have succeeded or failed in it. It is very difficult to find that thing for which you always a soft corner involuntarily.

And priority doesn't attribute in any ways to the physical relationships of this world. 

 

I would like to draw a line of code between priorities of Generation X and Y (we belong to Gen Y and our parents belong to X). Our parents' priorities were to make us study whatever that they couldn't do in their lives and to also make us have a happy and a great life. But ours' should be entirely different. Yes I mean it once again!. 

 

Today a 22 year old thinks similarly like a 50 year old in terms of any fields in this world. So know your priorities. It is not about you doing your MBAs, marrying your girl friend, buying a new home for your parents. These are termed as desires and goals.

Priority is something that is regarded as more important than another. To know about the another, you have to know what are all the things available that you can do in your reach which you can prioritize.

 

One advice is, have your priorities towards the welfare of this world. You may think it as a bluff. I realized it after gathering vast number of information only. May be someday, you will get a spark too. When you know your priorities, you start to do the best to this world.

"Your desires and aims give the best for your personal needs!

May your priorities do the same to this world too!"

Prioritize!! Doh!

Change!!

Sigh!!!

From yesterday, I have been thinking to write an article on this. Still thinking!!

OK, here it goes. I intended to write an article on management tips that flash once in a blue moon in my brain through a wider range of cognizance I have acquired from books (Believe me. I have many bookmarks!! )

So When I determined to write a blog separately under this category, I heard my inner conscience roaring, “Poda Patti” (Sidin's Style).

I can understand. It doesn’t want to resist anymore. How many times can it put up with me when I say that there is going to be a change this time?!!! 

My Inner Conscience!!! Sorry to show this!!

 

Aap hi bhatayiye kya Karen ham!!??

Anyways, in my style, I would say,”Comedy Boss!!!”

Coming back, that is the essence of this article which is embroidered with some obstacles that come along with it.

The Dark Knight Rises

Yes, this is going to be a journey similar to that of Christian Bale in “The Dark Knight Rises” where he jumps out of that prison only when the ropes are not curled upon him (What? Haven’t watched the movie yet?? Please!!!!!!!!)

So, everyone is expecting some sorts of transmutation in their lives from their current jobs because of some of the following things.

Reason#1  :   They don’t fit in the right kind of frame.

Reason#2  :   They are incompetent.

Reason#3 : They aspire for something else. This literally has two subcategories.

Sub Category#1 : They are day dreamers (One half of me here!! ).

Sub Category#2 : They really want something else (Another half here!! ).

Reason#4 : They are fed up due to a cliched work.

There are people who have all the above four reasons together for expecting a change. Maybe, the great of all, Homer Singh may have all this together!! (Sigh!!)

So how can we bring about the change we wish for?

Case Study... Case Study.. Case Study.

Case 1: Those who are unwilling to take risks for the change and still wish for it!

Ellis Boyd "Red" Redding

Let us take the case of “Ellis Boyd "Red" Redding” (Morgan Freeman!!) from Shawshank Redemption as an example. 

 

He serves a life sentence for a murder. Inside the prison, he also serves as a contraband smuggler selling drugs and other stuffs to the inmates of the reformatory. 

 

His kind of character desires for a change, but doesn’t know how to make a life outside of prison as he has been dwelling in his cell for the past two-three decades!!

One of you reading this may be like “Red”.

It’s not wrong. I would attribute this to the level of exposure that one has been brought up in his/her life all over. The less exposed you are, the less chances are there for you to take a risk knowingly.

If you don't have any idea about that, the best option is to get in touch with those who have some discernment more than you and who can suggest you some useful ways.

Red and Andy in Shawshank prison

“Red” had luckily acquainted the great friendship of “Andy Dufresne” in that movie. Not all of us can get one like that. So, it is our duty to find one like that. Even in that movie, “Red” understands the cleverness of Andy and makes some moves to become friends with him. Imagine how you would have to be then!

If you don't follow that, it is going to be really difficult for you to have a change.

Ekalavya seen begging Drona

In Mahabharatha, there was a warrior named Ekalavya, who was the best in archery. He had the ability to outsmart even the mighty Arjuna. But he didn't have someone to guide him. He desperately wanted to become the sishya (student) of Dronacharya, who neglected him fearing that a man from a lower caste like him might overtake Arjuna who belonged to the caste of Kshatriyas (Kings).

So, those who are unwilling to take any risk/do not know what to do, try to grab the they-know-lots-of-information people and get to know their experience and expertise in your fields.

So that you can move to Case#2

Case 2: Those who are willing to take risks for the change!

Here we shall take the example of “Andy Dufresne” from the same movie. He is clever, succinct and reacts less to even the worst situations.

Andy Dufresne

He knows that he didn't murder his wife. But he has been acquitted with proof. Later in his period in jail, he comes to know the murderer. He faces a lot of politics inside the cell. He has only one aim in his mind and he mentions it very cleverly to “Red” saying that if he ever escapes from the jail, he would go to Zihuatanejo, a beach town on the Pacific Coast of Mexico. Red only pacifies him wishing him that it will happen someday. In heart, he knows that Andy can never make it from Shawshank.

But Andy firmly believes in his escape. Involuntarily, his sub conscience starts to work on the process of ducking out of the prison. He asks if Red could find him a rock hammer, an instrument he claims is necessary for his hobby of rock collecting and sculpting. This instrument plays a major role for his escape from the prison.

Andy after his escape from prison

The rest is movie. Please watch it if you haven't. The point is he never gave up even in that worst situation. He had a rock solid aim that didn't get away for two decades even if it is a serious crime. He finally made it out of his cell through the mighty hole that he had carved for 20 years which, in his room was behind a poster of Rita Hayworth, one of the top actresses of Hollywood in the 1940's.

Point :

Risks may have mighty failures many times! But one should never give up!

Lazy Homer !!!

Case 3: Start the Day --> Drink Coffee --> Eat Vada Pav --> Go to office --> Coax colleagues --> Come back and flirt with GF/BF --> Sleep --> Goto Start the Day..

I need not say about the consequences for these kind of people. You know it very well for yourself. The point is that they will fret over it someday, when everything would have passed by them unnoticed, only to lament about it later.

Advice to them :

“ Try at least to think about it Sirji!!!! Time is waning!!! “

So, Mahabharatha --> Ekalavya --> Andy Dufresne --> Red --> Life

Remember these things.. In someway, they may relate to you or they may look absurd as always. Anyway, by now, I hope an idea would have clicked your mind!

So, start now. Think about it. Homer Singh wishes you the very best in finding whatever you want in life. Doh!!!!